Well, yesterday was DD day at our house. Apparently, the deer around here read WordPress, and my May Garden Tour post was an invitation. Whoops.
They ate the kale…
They nibbled the potatoes …
And snarfed ALL but two of the bush beans!
And thatās not all…
The hostas, alstroemeria, lilac, everlasting sweet pea, lupin, the biggest sunflower and the apple tree for dessert.
So when the deer come chomping, the gardener(ās husband) builds a fence.
Fingers crossed…
But thereās always something positive happening in the garden. Iām thrilled that this method of interplanting worked. I planted radishes and carrots together so the fast-sprouting radishes shade the finicky slow-sprouting carrots until they germinate. Now Iāve pulled the radishes and the carrots are perfectly thinned and ready to keep growing.
Thereās always something positive in the garden.
Aloha! Since my backyard urban farm in-development has taken up all my focus and energy and I havenāt been writing at all, I thought Iād share photos of how Iāve been staying busy.
Honestly, it has become a full-time job. There are days when the MonSter awakes and I drag myself out of bed hardly able to face the thought of all the tasks calling for attention. But I make myself get out there every day at least for 20 minutes. Usually that ends up with me outside all day.
Besides the obvious advantages of all that vitamin D and fresh air, I know that digging in the dirt is helping rebuild my immune system and my gut microbiota. So even on the toughest days, I rest a lot but I make myself do the lighter tasks. The trick is to not focus on everything that needs to be done but to put the blinders and just do one, small, task.
Anyway, enough of that. Have a wander through our garden.
I know not everyone is fortunate enough to have a yard to garden. But even a small pot on a windowsill can grow parsley, basil and cilantro. Food security is a serious issue that has finally been brought to the forefront of peopleās minds because of the Covid-19 situation. Start small and grow your own!
Alright, thanks for joining me. I didnāt even get to the vegetable beds by the house, but Iāll leave that for another post.
The world has stopped. The unthinkable has happened and weāre in crisis mode, trying to get our heads around this ānew normalā.
Iāve been here before.
No, not exactly like this, obviously. But almost five years ago, my world stopped when I finally admitted I couldnāt teach anymore. Iāve been adapting to my new normal ever since. Itās been a bumpy ride, but there have been many surprising blessings as well.
Learning to be. This is a big one. We are so inundated with messages telling us we need to be doing something all the time. Thereās a culture of busy-ness, where the more youāre doing is like a badge of honour. When you have a chronic illness, thatās not really an option because the fatigue, among other things, is so killer that You. Just. Canāt.
So you spend a lot of time at home, sitting around, isolated, without a whole lot of options for entertainment. Sound familiar? Iām sure itās a new experience for most healthy people, and it can be uncomfortable just sitting in your own skin sometimes. Or maybe thatās just the MS. š¤
But just being, instead of always doing can be a wonderful opportunity to get real with yourself and figure out whatās really important. Weāve been conditioned to believe we need to be working, be productive, be entertained, be adventurous, be travelling , be consuming, be socializing.
Weāve forgotten that sometimes itās important to just BE.
When you stop doing and sit quietly with yourself, your mind has space to process. This is why meditation has become so popular. But you donāt even have to be that organized about it. Iām not knocking meditation in any way, Iām just suggesting that you pay attention to whether you take any time during your day to stop doing and just BE.
Staring at nature is my go-to for times when I need to stop and be for awhile, even if itās just out the window, or the nature channel on TV. I guess thatās technically doing something but the mental health benefits outweigh any slicing of that proverbial hair.
Weāve been running on the societal treadmill for so long that doing nothing, just BEING is a difficult thing for many people right now. I get it. Like with anything though, a shift in perspective can change this strange situation weāre finding ourselves in, into an opportunity to examine our values and decide if we really want to go back to the āold normalā.
As much as I miss teaching, I am grateful every single day for my many blessings. Learning to be comfortable with just being and not doing all the time has helped me enormously in accepting my new normal. I hope it helps you too.
Just be.
Look what you can see when you stop doing for a few minutes. Just be. Photo credit: Amanda L. Callin
It has been far too long since Iāve published anything but this article is important enough to share. If you allow your fear to spiral out of control, that lowers your immunity and makes you more susceptible to getting sick.
Stay informed, but focus on connection and gratitude. Turn off the screens and get outside. Wash your hands, and stay home unless itās essential to go out. Stay safe and healthy out there!
So, I was ‘voluntold’ yesterday by my youngest that ‘we’ were providing the vegan gingerbread house kit for her and a friend for the class contest on Friday. Ummm… okay? š¤£
I love that she knows I love to bake so assumed I’d be happy to do it. Happier that it doesn’t occur to her that I’m carefully pacing myself at the moment so I can make it through the holidays without the MonSter rearing it’s ugly head too far. One of the perks of an invisible illness when it comes to your kids, at least when you can…
But it’s always smart to remind yourself, chronic illness or not, that it’s not worth pushing beyond your limits. Everyone owes it to themselves to take time for self-care, to take things off their plate when necessary and to ask for help sometimes.
The whole season should be about being cozy and spending low-key personal time with your people. Let go of the consumer, commercial side of it and focus on what matters. You can only do what you can do, and good enough is good enough. Otherwise, you…
The best thing I’ve started doing since I finally got decent running shoes is getting my butt out the door every weekday for a 20 minute walk. Sometimes it’s a few minutes more, but never too much because in the past I would get back into ballet or yoga and go too hard, setting myself back several steps. So now I’m the tortoise not the hare, and I find I look forward to my walk each day and it sets me up well for the day ahead. There are days when 20 minutes doesn’t get me too far…
But I’ve only missed one day, when the wind was too much for my sensory issues, and then the last couple of days when I needed to brave the crowds to finish the Christmas shopping. Now I will get out there every day if possible because I know it’s the single best thing I can do to make it through our busiest Christmas season ever, and enjoy it.
Finally, chronic illness or not…
Depending on how things go, I may post one more time about the vegan gingerbread house. If it’s a total fail, maybe not, so…
Wishing you all a restful, joyous holiday and a healthy, peaceful New Year.
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