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Tips for staying healthy in cold and flu season

The germs are a-coming!

As we approach colder weather and months spent mainly indoors, all the bacteria are getting ready to party, waiting for those unsuspecting souls who will help spread the news and invite those snot-making, cough-producing little buggers into your home and mine.

Having a chronic illness means that a simple cold can knock you out for weeks, if not months, instead of days. People may consider me a germaphobe now but having suffered from pseudo-exacerbations – not a real relapse but just as much fun – after getting the sniffles makes me wary of those invisible little suckers that are everywhere.

Before The End, my years working in the germ factory, aka an elementary school, honed my skills at preventing the spread of colds and viruses, beyond the obvious of washing your hands well, and frequently. So here are my top five tips for staying healthy and preventing the spread of colds and flu viruses this winter.

1) Don’t touch your face.

This may sound strange but if you start paying attention, you will notice how often you touch your nose or mouth. No matter how meticulous our own hygiene, other humans with filthy habits are everywhere, touching everything. Becoming aware of this will cut down on an enormous amount of germs that you let in without even thinking about it.

2) Change hand towels and dishcloths daily.

Excessive? I don’t think so, not when all the germs that come into the house are being wiped off hands and surfaces by those towels.

3) Don’t shake hands.

Yes, people sometimes react like I’ve offended them when I say “I’m sorry, I don’t shake hands in flu season.” That’s okay, I look at it as a public service announcement. Shaking hands is an outdated practice from a time when humans weren’t quite so crammed together. I don’t need to touch you to tell you that I’m pleased to meet you.

4) Use your sleeve or wear gloves when touching surfaces in public.

When opening doors, pushing elevator buttons, or using stair railings, wear gloves or use your sleeve. Sometimes it’s not possible to use your sleeve and you might feel strange wearing gloves inside, in which case don’t touch your face and wash your hands asap. Ultimately though, who cares really if someone thinks you’re a pretentious nut job if you wear gloves indoors – you won’t be snarfing into tissues and hacking up a lung. Seems like a better deal. Maybe we can start a new trend?

5) Wipe doorknobs and light switches weekly.

Starting in bedrooms and working your way through the public rooms, to the bathroom, the front hall and finally the front door(inside and out), give them all a good wipe every week. You don’t need to use the nasty chemical antibacterial crap either. A solution of 3/4 vinegar, 1/4 water, 20-25 drops of tea tree oil and 10-15 drops of lavender oil will do the trick nicely. There are some ‘green’ products that come in handy wipes and if that makes it easier, then go for it. I always use one to wipe down the shopping cart at the grocery store.

A few other things that help me through a potentially snotty season are:

* Oil Of Oregano – if I feel that I’m getting sick I put 5-10 drops under my tongue and wash it down with LOTS of water. It’s an acquired taste.

* Zinc – a tickle in my throat and I start downing the quick dissolve zinc tablets.

* Infrared sauna – if you haven’t tried one, I highly recommend it. I know lots of MSers can’t stand heat so it’s not an option for everyone. I only stay in for 15-20 minutes but it’s a very different, less oppressive heat than a traditional sauna and I can feel it zapping those nasty buggers while I’m in there.

I am not a health professional in any way but I have found these things have helped me avoid getting sick for the last two years. Of course, it could be that my immune system is on overdrive all the time and addicted to my myelin so other germs never have a chance. Not worth taking the chance.

One final public health announcement: If you do get sick, PLEASE STAY HOME! There is a misguided belief in our capitalistic society that it’s a badge of honour to show up at work even when you’re at death’s door. Or to send your kid to school when they’re dribbling booger snakes. Really you’re being an asshole.

Caveat: Single parents reliant on a single pay check are not assholes in this instance. This is where we need to reconnect as communities and help each other out as family, friends and neighbours. Everyone needs a support system.

Noooo! We need to get over this mentality.

I used to say to my students, there are lots of things we should share with each other, germs are not one of them.

Do you have any good tips to share for staying healthy? Let me know in the comments.

Stay healthy, my friends. Have a wonderful week!

❤️ Amanda

chronic illness, life, MS, writing

Grant, the cabbie has the cure!

I wake up slightly hungover and more than ready to get home. Strung out after four days facing my own anxiety and the fact that some women never leave high school, I need some serious solitude. I phone a cab and wait outside in the crisp morning air, dying for coffee.

The cab pulls up and the white-haired driver gets out. Red suspenders hold up dirty brown pants and a stained blue dress shirt stretches over an enormous belly. Sparkling blue eyes magnify curiosity behind enormous glasses.

“Where are you off to this fine morning, young lady?” He peeps at me in the rear view mirror and tips his grimy white baseball cap.

“Home to Victoria. I missed my bus yesterday so I was staying with a friend.” I’m taking shallow breaths because the air in the cab is custard thick with that sickly-sweet old man smell. It doesn’t feel right to open the window. I don’t know why.

“And what do you do in Victoria, young lady?”

“Well, I’m a teacher by trade but I don’t teach anymore. Now I’m a writer.” There, I said it without air quotes. Yay me!

“And why is it that you no longer teach, may I ask?”

“I have MS. I would love to —”

“I know how to cure that. It’s one of two things.”

Jesus. “Oh yeah?”

“Absolutely. It’s either a yeast overgrowth or a magnesium deficiency.”

Haven’t heard those before.

I try to stare out the window as he pontificates nonsensically but he keeps eyeballing me through the rear view.

He tells me he sells essential oils and I want to laugh, but I can barely breathe.

The longest ten-minute cab ride finally ends. He hands me a card with the words ‘wellness advocate’ under his name before he gets out to open the trunk.

He lets me get my own suitcase as he starts telling me about his prostate. Seriously. I finally cut him off and say I need coffee. He makes sure to tell me that he’s going to get coffee too, but in the car.

I’m sitting in Starbucks with my headphones on and see him drive by, glasses peering through the window. Several minutes later, I spot him in my peripheral vision. He’s come inside and he’s trying to get my attention. Oh for the love of all that’s holy.

Thank god for technology.

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This is an excerpt from a short story I wrote after the writing retreat I went to in September. This dude just may pop up in my fiction at some point – who needs to make characters up when these kinds of people show up in your life? I wish my powers of description could do him justice, he truly was something else. His card is still on our fridge – haha!

Just to be clear:

1) There is NO CURE for multiple sclerosis.

2) Warriors find it really annoying when people suggest they know how to fix us, if we just follow their latest fad. Most of us have tried many, many different therapies and medications. MS is a complex disease that affects every person in a different way on a different day. If you have something to suggest, I’m all ears – if it’s done with sensitivity and respect.

Do you have stories of people giving you the magic cure? I’d love to hear them!

Have a wonderful week!

❤️ Amanda

awards, nominations, challenges, life, mental health

Pick-Me-Up Playlist – World Mental Health Day

I normally only post on Mondays, but Muted Mouthful, included me in this tag for World Mental Health Day, and I couldn’t resist. Thanks Muted Mouthful! If you haven’t checked out her blog yet, head over there for great posts from a socially anxious introvert.

Rules:

  1. Link back to ‘Pick Me Up Playlist’ creator – Laura Spoonie – https://lauraspoonie.blog/2018/10/10/pick-me-up-playlist-tag/
  2. Tag the blogger who nominated you
  3. Mention how music helps your Mental Health
  4. List 10 songs that you would consider to be a part of your ‘Pick Me Up Playlist’ (optional: mention a little bit why each song is on your list)
  5. Tag 10 other bloggers to join in with the ‘Pick Me Up Playlist’ Challenge

How music helps my mental health

For me, music is the perfect solution for any mood. When I’m joyful, I crank some disco and boogie all over the house. When I’m mellow and reflective, classical music spurs my ideas and imagination. Most importantly, on the dark days, the hard days, the days where I would rather stay nestled in bed than face the world with this achy body, I can put on my headphones and choose any of these songs to get me up and moving. Yes, I’m a bit of a metal head and I’m totally not current with today’s music. Rock on!

1) Spirit of the West – any of their songs really, amazing Canadian folk rock band

2) My Chemical Romance – Famous Last Words

3) Metallica – Welcome Home (Sanitarium) – This was my teenage anthem. Listening to it now reminds me of how far I’ve come from that confused, angry teenager.

4) Iron Maiden – Run to the Hills

5) AC/DC – For Those About to Rock

6) Billy Idol – Can’t Break Me Down

7) Oasis – Don’t Look Back in Anger

8) Dire Straits – Romeo and Juliet

9) Van Morrison – Into the Mystic

10) The Stone Roses – Ten Storey Love Song

Other bloggers I nominate

I picked mostly newer blogs that could use some love, so I hope you’ll check them out!

https://briannarosewilson.wordpress.com/2018/10/08/you-dont-get-to-mark-me/

https://eachlittlespark.wordpress.com/2018/10/08/hello-its-your-depression/

https://mssensitivebadass.wordpress.com/2018/10/03/246/

https://silentpartnersonline.wordpress.com/2018/09/29/and-i-remembered-why-i-love-you/

https://ananxiousgalblog.wordpress.com/2018/10/05/my-most-recent-anxious-blunder/

https://wakeninglife.home.blog/2018/10/06/starting-to-fall-kicking-off-autumn-mental-health-awareness-week/

https://lavenderandlevity.wordpress.com/2018/10/09/improv-11-im-mrs-bright-blogs/

https://ashleighchristine.com/2018/10/09/a-letter-to-my-13-year-old-self/

https://www.thethoughtsthatbind.com/2018/10/04/should-i-quit-therapy/

https://mylifeinlimbo.blog/2018/10/08/day-at-the-fqarm/

Thanks again to https://lauraspoonie.blog/2018/10/10/pick-me-up-playlist-tag/ for initiating the Pick-Me-Up Playlist tag. Let’s keep spreading awareness so we can break the stigma of mental illness.

Happy Wednesday!!

❤️Amanda

gratitude, life, writing

Blogger Recognition Award

Happy Thanksgiving to my fellow Canadians! Continuing on the theme of things to be grateful for, I have to thank Ruth at Melanin Talks for nominating me for The Blogger Recognition Award. If you haven’t checked out her blog yet, head on over there for interesting posts from a 20-something Congolese student living in the UK.

In the four months since I started blogging, I have faced my fear that I could scoop my thoughts out of the pea soup of brain fog that invades my life most days. I have also surprised myself and been wonderfully surprised by the reaction and reception of the blogging community.

I have read so many interesting posts, found a ton of amazing blogs and I can honestly say, I have made better connections with some people online in four months than I have made in person my whole adult life. The blogging community rocks!

How it all began – I explained it all here.

Advice to new bloggers

1) Quality not quantity. Post regularly but don’t get caught up in the numbers game. As fun as it may be to watch the stats grow, keep it in perspective. Remember that all things worth doing take time to develop, and doing something well is a process. Not to mention, there is life outside of social media, a fact we need to remind ourselves of more and more.

2) Connect with other bloggers. There is an amazing, supportive community of bloggers ready to welcome you but, just like in life, it has to go both ways. If you want people to be interested in your content, you have to give some love too.

The Rules:

  • Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog
  • Write a post explaining how your blog got started
  • Give 2 pieces of advice to new bloggers
  • Nominate 15 other bloggers you feel deserve some recognition
  • Comment on each blog nominating them, providing the link to the post you created

I decided to pick a mixture of newer blogs, to give those people a boost, and more established blogs that might not need the recognition as much but I feel are important to share.

Writing and poetry

https://poetryforhealing.com/about/

https://daisymae874.wordpress.com/about/

https://poetryfromtheinkwell.wordpress.com/2018/10/07/a-mathematical-statement-senryu/

https://blindwilderness.wordpress.com/aboutme/

https://lilhamilton.wordpress.com/about/

Chronic illness

https://msluckyduck.com/about/

https://msgracefulnot.com/who-am-i/

https://hellofibroblog.wordpress.com/

https://msmsmystoryfightingmultiplesclerosis.com/about/

https://katieslifewithms.wordpress.com/about/

Mental health

https://recoverurself.wordpress.com/about-me/

https://theblackwallblog.wordpress.com/contact/about/

https://insane100.wordpress.com/2018/09/07/men-wont-talk-about-depression-and-its-literally-killing-them/

https://descantsoncivilisation.wordpress.com/2018/10/06/tired-of-fighting-unlock-powerful-strength-in-being-motivator-cognizant/

https://ashipofmyownmaking.wordpress.com/2018/10/08/the-frightening-decline/

Have a wonderful week!

❤️ Amanda

chronic illness, life, writing

It’s October!!!

Callie’s grateful for her new sleeping platform in the garden.

The month of Canadian Thanksgiving. So, because there are too many things going on right now for me to focus and write an earth-changing blog post😉, I am going to list some of the things I am grateful for:

Our youngest child’s 10th birthday tomorrow. She’ll be getting her ears pierced, just like I did on my tenth birthday, as did her sister.

Her role as a Party Child in The Nutcracker with the Royal Winnipeg Ballet!

Our oldest daughter thriving in the music program at college.

Our son blowing our minds with his knowledge and dedication to learning all about trading – at 16.

Beautiful new raised beds letting me experiment finally with square foot gardening.

Finally making some progress towards our bathroom renovation. It has been years since we could use our bathtub – long story.

Finishing my first draft!!! With thanks to C.S. Lakin at Live Write Thrive for providing the free resources that helped make it possible.

Finding this story workbook tutorial by Stephanie Morrill at GoTeenWriters.com (yes, I’m in denial – don’t bust me!) that makes me feel like I have a direction for a second draft in time for Nanowrimo.

The monster being more or less quiet – or maybe I’m just getting used to it. At the very least, I’m not letting the MS control me like it used to.

There is so much to be thankful for! Mostly, I am grateful to my family and friends and all the amazing people I’ve connected with since I started this blog in June.

I’m just going to leave this lovely lady right here, in the spirit of the season. Check out the dude on her stomach!!

Spider on a web

Have a wonderful week!

❤️ Amanda